In this episode, recorded January 10, 2017, we discuss tips on communicating with Orthodox/Believing Mormons. Co-hosts are John and Margi Dehlin.
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Brynne Thomas Gant, Deputy District Attorney at Weld County District Attorney’s Office
Tanner Gilliland, Co Founder of Zelph on the Shelf
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Hey, where can I find that?
- Brynne and Jared’s note to friends and family on their faith crisis/transition.
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- Brynne referenced Trying Not to Try when talking about a more empathetic approach to communicating with family and loved ones. ’43:48′
- ’50:52′ John and Margi move to their next segment, ‘Having the Conversation’.
- John had a tip to keep in mind when having the conversation. ’54:10′
- Tanner offered his perspective on balance in relationships, and authenticity. ‘1:01:24’
- ‘1:11:40’ What do we do when they ask?
- John on the ‘Power of Creating Space’. ‘1:17:57’
- Margi on boundaries ‘1:26:29’
- John and Margi conclude with their final segment on ‘Self Care’ ‘1:32:27’
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I told one of my best friends that my husband and I no longer believe in the church and she didn’t even ask why. A few weeks later her and her husband came over for New Years Eve. They stayed far away from the subject, yet they continued to talk about church, their callings, their ward, etc. I understand that it might be scary for them to ask, because they might be afraid of what we would say. This friend was my roommate for 3 years in college, and we have been friends for 8 years. It is frustrating to me that she is pretending that nothing has happened. I’m not sure how to handle the situation. Should I bring it up? Should I let her come to me?
I think making a solemn promise never to challenge faith is a little rash. I prefer to say, “I respect you and your journey. We can discuss as much or as little as you like.”
Please let your listeners know that if they post to Facebook it will appear in your news feed. Ironically, we learned this the hard way. One of my wife’s friends let her know that her post was public. It was a question about coming out to our family members, but I guess we mite be out now. I guess the universe has a way of telling you when it is time.
When I transitioned out of the Church 15+ years ago, I went to a therapist for guidance. To provide guidance for the session, this therapist had a 30-page questionnaire to be filled out beforehand. When I came into her office, this therapist was uncontrollably smiling. She was quite amused that until the last page, my answers to the questionnaire caused her to think that I was a gay man trying to figure out how to come out. John is absolutely correct when he observes the similarities between the two.