In these episodes of Mormon Stories, John and Margi have a discussion with Natasha Helfer Parker, LCMFT, CST about forming a foundation for marriage that withstands change. They also discuss guiding principles to maintaining successful relationships.
In Part 1, John, Margi and Natasha discuss:
- Differentiation: the constant tension between “me” and “we” in marriage
- Respect/friendship in a relationship
- The Protection Model vs the Intimacy Model
- Avoiding power differentials in a relationship
- Challenging the rhetoric of “co-dependence”
In Part 2, John, Margi, and Natasha discuss:
- Creating positive communication and protecting marriage when believing family tries to place blame on a spouse
- Belonging to yourself and choosing to share in significant ways as the best method to building intimacy
- Common relationship myths
- Vulnerability within relationships
- How self-discovery and relationship renovation enhances relationships
Part 1 (5/2/2017):
Part 2 (5/9/2017):
Notes:
The Seven Principles for making marriage work:
https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=CC8XZ25YA1P0X7904JTX
Values worksheets:
https://psychologytools.com/values-free-en-us.pdf
https://osp-cp.uchicago.edu/sites/osp-cp.uchicago.edu/files/i/Values%20Inventory%20Worksheet.pdf
https://psychologytools.com/values.html
Natasha Parker
https://www.symmetrysols.com/
Mormon Mental Health Association
http://www.mormonmentalhealthassoc.org/mmha-clinical-providers
Values Resource
http://kairios.com/
Act Mindfully
https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free_resources